I find myself asking this question a lot lately, and after a recent conversation I had with a friend I know I am not the only one that sometimes ponders this question. There are times where we blame ourselves for situations that are far beyond out of our control, and then there are times where we refuse to accept that we are the blame. While speaking to my friend, let's call her "Anna", I found myself giving her advice I should be taking myself. She had recently did some Facebook stalking on her "ex" and saw that he was now engaged to his girlfriend of a year. Anna and her ex had been together for four years, and feeling quite upset she called me with the natural "Why not me?" question. Not because she still wants him, she is over that bridge, but because this was what they were arguing over which brought on the break-up: They wanted different things... so she thought. I tried to explain to her that this was out of her control, but she wouldn't and still will not accept it. I've … [Continue reading...]
